There is a great saying that goes something like this:
“Do what you love, and you will never work another day in your life”
Generally speaking the discussion about finding your passion or your purpose is very strong in the past couple of years – and I love it!
I’ve been working for myself for almost 10 years now, and I wouldn’t give up the experiences I had, and I surely had difficult and painful ones.
Dr. Brene Brown has an amazing TED video in which she explains the idea that a person cannot numb part of his feelings. We can not truly choose to be just happy and joyful and skip all sadness and pain – we can either choose to live an emotional life of a life with no emotion.
A life of pursuing your passion and living your purpose is truly a life full of emotions and that’s amazing!
The Biggest Mistake
The biggest mistake people are making about finding their purpose or passion, in my opinion, is looking for it, assuming there is one.
It’s a lot like believing that there is one person in the world who is a perfect fit for you and searching for that one person.
The truth is that just like there are plenty of people you could potentially be happy and fulfilled with there are plenty of passions you could adopt and purposes you could fill.
So it’s more of a choice process than it is a searching process, of course, if you are twenty and have no idea about how the world works, you should try different things, experience the world before making this decision while remembering that its ok to change it later.
Especially before taking huge commitments, I almost always recommend volunteering or working at a hospital for a few weeks before going into med school or working or volunteering at a lawyers office before going to law school – unless of course you are 100% sure and in that case simply go for it!
I myself learned computer programming and even went to the first year of software engineering in university before I realized it is not what I was meant to do with my life, and back then I thought I wasted my time but already now I can tell you that the skills and the thought process I’ve learned help me with my business today.
So do not be afraid to make mistakes, especially if you are willing to correct them quickly.
How to find you PURPOSE
So what can you do if you do not yet know your passion or purpose:
Release the pressure, it’s not so dramatic, you have many right choices and it’s something that might change through the course of your life. Simply make a commitment that once you go off track you will correct yourself. It’s not always that simple because once you have more responsibility it might be harder, but if you are committed you will find a way even if it will take some time and not as quickly as a 20-year-old can drop out of college.
Gather more experiences, don’t get stuck in a place you dislike and don’t be in one place for too long, after a certain amount of time you will start to form an idea about the things you like and dislike and about your strengths and weaknesses
When something is both something you like and something you are good at – it’s a passion.
If it’s also something others are interested in – it can very well be a purpose.
Now whether you just did these two things or you already know what your purpose is, make sure to keep exploring new ideas, make sure to revisit your purpose and maybe make it more refined and clear in the future.
Remember most of us were not born to do one thing, we are doing one thing now and it’s natural that it is going to evolve and change over time.
The exercise may take some time but be sure to download it now and schedule it, put a reminder on your phone, so even if you don’t have the time to do it so that you could do it later.
If you have like 10 minutes right now – it is obviously the best!